“The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence.”
― Charles Bukowski
Mr. Bukowski aptly summarizes what most of us have observed. Gifted individuals are more prone to vulnerability and insecurity than their less skilled friends. The reason behind this is explained thoroughly by Carol Dweck in her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Children with a fixed mindset tend to believe that failing at a task means they are stupid or unintelligent. Dr. Dweck and her student Claudia Mueller did an experiment where a group of children was praised for their smartness while another group was praised for their efforts. The study showed that children who were praised for being smart easily lost their confidence and doubted their ability after failing a test while those who were praised for their hard work believed that their failure was due to the fact that they did not try hard enough. They therefore worked harder on the final test.
This experiment tells us two things:
1. The kind of feedback that children get from their mentors has a huge impact on their confidence.
2. We need to have a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset in order to reach our full potential.
If you have a growth mindset, you choose to focus on honing your ability or learning new skills rather. You direct your efforts to getting smarter over showing that you are already smart. On the other hand, if you have a fixed mindset you believe that you already know enough and that you are born with a natural ability to do a certain task.
Now, if you think that you have been approaching life with a fixed mindset, what you need to do is shift to a growth mindset so you can reach your full potential. How can you do this?
A fixed mindset is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe that you are either born with it or without it, you will keep yourself from acquiring the necessary skills that will lead you to reaching your full potential. Remember to replace “I am not good at this,” to “I am not good at this yet.”
How are you reaching you full potential? Feel free to share your thoughts on the comment box.
Live Your Passion,
Lynn Allen – Johnson
It’s amazing to me how many people spend their lives settling for less than what they want or deserve because they are afraid to change course and venture into the unfamiliar. They let fear of change keep them stuck and unfulfilled. I was once one of these people until I realized that I would never have what my heart ached for unless I was willing to step out of all that was comfortable to me and listen to that voice inside that was screaming for me to move. It was time for a new beginning.
Here’s a perfect example of what I just don’t get. I was listening to a man speak about how much he hated the job that he had done for the past 25 years. He said that everyday he went to work he felt like it must feel like in prison. He dreaded getting up each morning to go to his job and he sounded so defeated and “joyless”. And, besides the fact that he wasn’t happy, he wasn’t making enough money to live. I asked him why he would spend 25 years of his life doing something that he had no passion for while building someone else’s dream and he had no answer.
It was at that time that I decided that I must help this man by sharing my business with him as I had created total freedom in my life by this point and I was once in his shoes. I was completely blown away by his response. He told me he could never consider anything else because he only had 5 years left until his retirement. My words “So you mean to say you are going to spend the next 5 years of your life doing something you absolutely hate in order that you can retire in 5 years with a pension that will be 1/3 of what you can’t live on now?” His answer was yes which absolutely made no sense to me.
We are all put here on this earth to let our light shine and make a difference and how dare us settle and play small because we are fearful of change. Too many of us settle in mediocrity most of our lives and in the end look back with regret. We have the opportunity every single day for a new beginning with a clean slate and yet we stay put. If what you are doing is not meeting your needs either spiritually, physically or financially, you have the power to change that beginning now.
I love new beginnings and have been blessed with the instinct to know when it’s time to change course. Many people wait till January 1st to write new goals and plan a vision and direction for their life. How about now? Why spend another day off your course! Who is ready for a new beginning?
I have worked hard for the past 3 years in ARIIX and have been given the honor of being inducted into the Founders Club. It’s hard to believe that myself and the other Founders will be splitting 50% of the company’s profits FOR LIFE. I now have a legacy for my Children and Grandchildren and all future generations. Thank you so much ARIIX for a true partnership with your field and for setting a new standard in the Network Marketing Industry. We are all in this together and I look forward to being a part of taking ARIIX to a billion dollars!!!
There is nothing like network marketing for anyone who desires to realize success in business through self-empowerment. As a leader, I get to prescribe a road map for the team that starts with the individual focusing on his/her dreams, their vision and then mustering a disciplined approach to leading others by caring to understand each team members wants, hence motivation. It is so important to develop a team. If there’s any business you can’t do it alone in, it’s this one. By developing your team, you not only increase their chances of success but you also increase your own.
It can be an exhilarating experience to enroll a new prospect into your business. They’re excited, and you’ve taken one of the most critical steps towards your success…building your team. But, your work doesn’t stop there. You may be so inspired by your prospecting success that you want to run out and start prospecting some more. After all, you found the key to success and now you figure all you have to do is sign up more people and you’re on our way.
While it’s true you do need to continually build your team, you also need to nurture and develop the team members you already have. Like customers, it’s much easier to help a current team member succeed than it is to find a new one so treat your team members like a valuable investment and do what it takes to make them succeed. That may be training, it may be hand holding or it may be teaching them to teach others. It’s a simple step that will reap enormous and lifelong rewards. Help people succeed and they will help you succeed in return.
The network marketing industry is heading full speed ahead towards the biggest boom of all time. If you follow the steps to success, you will be at the forefront of this growth. If you can apply this singleness of purpose to your business and do the right things consistently, you will succeed in this industry with the least degree of effort and the greatest degree of results.
We’ve all been born with the potential for living a fulfilled, happy, and enjoyable life. Some of us have achieved extraordinary success in business and in life, some of us have watched others achieve it, and still others have wondered will it ever happen for me.
If you’re one of those asking “when is it my turn,” allow me to help you awaken the sleeping giant inside of you that feels stuck, dissatisfied, frustrated and afraid. My hope for each of you is that this site will awaken you to the fulfillment, happiness and joy you’ve been yearning for and that you once again will dare to dream and begin exploring life’s possibilities.
Today I awoke with a totally different perspective on things that have been going on in my life. My Mother (who will be 90 on Dec 15th) took a fall almost 2 weeks ago and although nothing is broken, she hurt her knee and sprained her ankle. She lives in an Assisted living facility about 15 minutes from my home but this has stretched the staff there to care for her. Because of her dementia she has really struggled since the fall as her routine has been disrupted with xrays, dr’s, nurses, physical therapists an ankle brace etc. She is now fearful of another fall and has for sure lost a piece of herself in all of this…
Over the past 2 weeks myself and other family members have spent countless hours with her and I found myself feeling so burdened with the responsibility of taking care of her while also trying to run a business and take care of myself at the same time. She has gotten to a place now where she doesn’t like to be alone and every time I go to leave she is so sad that it breaks my heart. Visiting her had become just one more thing that I had to fit into my already busy life and after a 2 day melt down earlier this week and lots of prayer, I woke up this morning with a totally different perspective…..And here it is…
My Mom has been here for me my entire life and although we’ve had our challenges, there has never been a time where I didn’t know she was in my corner and would be there for me no matter what was going on in my life. So here she is now almost 90 years old and it is my turn to be there for her. This morning while I was getting ready to go see her I was thinking about how lucky I am to have this time with my Mom knowing that there will come a time in my life where I would give anything to get up in the morning and drive over to have a cup of coffee with her and share in conversation. All of a
sudden I realized that I am not going to visit her just because she needs me but because I need her in my life as well…I am so blessed to have this time with her and moving forward I will cherish every minute of it. Today when I walked in she said “I am so happy you are here. It just makes my day when I start it off having you with me.” I helped her get dressed and then we sat down and shared a cup of coffee. It was totally amazing and I look forward to a repeat tomorrow…
As I was driving home I was thanking God for this “perspective change” and it brought me to something else that I sometimes take for granted. That something is the freedom that I have in my life to be able to do this. To be able to choose to get up in the morning and go visit my Mom or to walk on the beach and watch the sunrise or to just sleep in if that’s what I choose to do is the most amazing gift. I worked hard for this freedom and am so blessed to have this amazing life. Life is all about choices and today I chose to shift my perspective and live in gratitude for all of the blessings in my life…