When I ventured into network marketing almost 20 years ago, it was because I wanted to change my life or better said, I decided I was going to change my life! I wasn’t quite sure where to begin so I went to the most successful person I knew in the industry and I asked him for his two best tips that he could give me for me to create the success I was looking for. I’ll save the second tip for another article but this was tip number one. “Work on Yourself First”. I had no idea what he was talking about at the time and then it hit me. For me to attract people into my business, they had to want what I had but the truth was, I didn’t even want what I had so how would I expect anyone to follow me. I was dead broke, a chain smoker of more than 30 years, and I was living in an apartment in central Florida. Oh, and did I mention I was 50 years old and working 60 hours a week in a tile marble and granite showroom? This was exactly where I was when it all began. What I knew was that I wanted it and what I also knew was that I had no idea how to get it so I went searching for the answers.
Working on myself was a journey and harder than I ever imagined but where I started was to quit smoking. I figured if I’m going to be out there representing a nutritional company I surely couldn’t do that as a smoker. Getting rid of the cigarettes was the first conscious decision I made to begin my journey of working on me. It was one of the hardest things I ever did but I wanted to change my life so badly and I knew this was my first step. What I didn’t anticipate was the 50 lbs. that followed. The lesson I learned from that was to quit beating myself up for the weight I put on and celebrate the victory of quitting smoking. One thing at a time and one day at a time I began to make small changes that turned into victories and soon I began to believe that anything was possible.
It’s important for me to share this and be real and honest because so many people out there think that they need a big education, experience in the industry and a massive skill set to succeed. Well the truth is, I had none of those but what I did have was a core desire that ran so deep that it drove me to begin working on me. It didn’t take me long to figure out that what held me back for most of my life was what was between my ears.
What is holding you back? My advice to you is the same advice I got “work On Yourself First”. You Got This!!!
#liveintentionally, #yougotthis, #keepingitreal
For so long I thought that to reach for the stars and pursue a path of success meant enormous amounts of hard work along with insurmountable challenges and obstacles. In fact, I think part of the reason I never tried to achieve great success was because I didn’t want to face that difficulty. It just seemed too hard, too overwhelming. But guess what? My life was hard anyway. Yes, success is difficult, but so is mediocrity and failure. Let’s face it…life is difficult. And once we can all agree on that, it’s time to deal with the fact and do something about it. In other words, if life is going to be difficult no matter what we choose, why not choose success? Why not choose to live the life of our dreams? It seems so simple and so why doesn’t everyone do it? The answer is just as simple…It’s because they don’t know they can.
As a human race, as a culture, as a society, as individuals we’ve lost touch with our power, our abilities, our willingness to take risks and dream big. Truth is, many of us have forgotten or worse, never even knew we could dream big. Most of us have let outside events and influences shape our lives. We’ve listened to and believed the roadblocks that society puts in front of us. There’s a recession. There’s inflation. We need a Masters degree to get ahead. We can’t have a family AND a career, It’s tough to be a woman, a minority, young, old or whatever.
We’ve all been sold a bill of goods when all along we knew that success has nothing to do with income levels, education, intelligence, bloodlines, race, creed, physical characteristics or the town we grew up in. Everyone has the raw untapped ability to create an exciting, balanced and predictable future in his or her own life. Of course, it’s convenient to let ourselves off the hook by blaming uncontrollable events and circumstances for our lack of success in life. The only problem is, there are far too many success stories of personal triumph from people who were in the same situation we are. That is, people with less advantage than what you or I have who have wound up becoming as successful as we all desire to be. In short, there are NO EXCUSES!!!
Live Your Passion,
Lynn Allen – Johnson
Author – Coach – Entrepreneur
The first sparks of my dream came as I was sitting on the deck of my beach home, drinking a glass of cabernet while watching a bird glide inches above a wave gently rolling onto the bleached white sand of the summer shore. Soaking up the late afternoon sun while marveling at the aquamarine water of the Florida coast, I began to wonder about that bird. Why, with all of its freedom, would that beautiful bird choose to be at this beach at this very moment? I quickly realized I was asking the wrong question. The real question was “Why weren’t there more birds here”? Why wasn’t the beach filled with birds? More importantly, why were some birds willing to settle for living in dirty city alleys or on non-descript rooftops, when they could soar in the gentle breeze of a tropical beach? What made some birds choose squalor and other birds choose paradise?
Instinctively, I realized I already knew the answer. Only a few short years before that day on the beach, I was living an ordinary plain wrap life. I was living paycheck to paycheck, just getting by, my job was okay. I wasn’t miserable, but I wasn’t happy either. I was just passing time and without much to show for it. I was 51years old and living in a small two bedroom apartment. Truth was, I wasn’t looking for anything more than what I already had. I suppose I had unconsciously made the choice to live on the “non-descript rooftop,” never dreaming of reaching for the “paradise” of a brighter world or a grander life. I can hardly call it a choice. To me it just was and I accepted it. Like those birds scratching out a meager existence from dumpster scraps, I didn’t know any other way of life existed. And even if I had an inclination that there was more to life, I didn’t for one second believe I could ever find it. I didn’t believe I could change my destiny. But guess what? I did change my destiny. I switched gears and gave my life a total overhaul, and it wasn’t hard to do.
As I breathed in the crisp sea air on that perfect afternoon at the beach I had to smile at my life. I had my dream home and I traveled often. I was making more money than I ever thought possible. Best of all, I had control of my schedule and my life and I used that control to spend my days doing what I loved most… enjoying time with my children and grandchildren. I was living a life I loved, and I’m still living it today. In just a few short years I had completely turned my life around. I literally changed my destiny. And I did it by making a simple choice.
I woke up one day and decided to break the chains of mediocrity, the business as usual cycle of living paycheck to paycheck, renting an apartment and scheduling my life at the mercy of a job I couldn’t afford to give up. I made the conscious choice to not just change my destiny…. but to create a new destiny. And today, I’m a living example of what we can do when we Dare to Dream.
I made another choice on the balcony that day. I vowed to spend the rest of my life teaching others how to change their destinies as well. I wanted to help others feel as good about their lives as I did about mine. And the truth is, you don’t really get something until you give it away and share it with others.
I should also mention here that while I said I changed my destiny, in truth I don’t think destinies even exist— certainly not in the way we think, not as something thrust upon us unwillingly. Rather, our only destinies are the lives we imagine then willingly create for ourselves. I created my destiny, the life of my dreams…. And now I can help you create your own destiny—the life of your dreams. I assure you, if I can do it, you can too.
Live Your Passion,
Lynn Allen – Johnson
As an entrepreneur who manages a home business, you are frequently faced with interruptions of different kinds. While it is impossible to eliminate all of these, you can control how much of your time each of these interruptions eat up. Thoughts, conversations, and actions are always part of a business whatever product or service you are offering. This is why success in the business is largely affected by how good you are at time management. You need to devour time management resources that will provide you with helpful ideas if you want to improve your expertise in this area. Here are some time management books that are excellent sources of information for home business owners:
1. David Allen, Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity
The problem with the advice we get from books written by most productivity gurus is that they focus on simplifying our lives. Being a home business owner is far from simple. It will never be simple. David Allen admits that people who are working on their goals have a lot on their plate. He does not suggest pruning the number of activities we engage in. He offers a “Get Things Done” method that will help us conquer numerous tasks and still have time for relaxation.
2. Brian Tracy, Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The catchy title is based on the words of Mark Twain: “Eat a live frog first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.” If you tackle the hardest task first thing in the morning, you will go through the day knowing the worst has been dealt with already. Additionally, you will get pieces of helpful advice regarding optimism, goal-setting, and creating healthy habits.
3. Timothy Ferris, The 4-Hour Workweek
Many business owners have already admitted that this book changed their life. The author successfully explained the methods used by successful people in the business industry. The one reason I am recommending this book is that the pieces of advice Tim Ferris share has been tried and tested by the author himself. No better way to learn than from a fellow business owner.
These are the best books to read if you need to take control of your time. These are not all the resource you need but these books should be indispensable tools in improving your time management skills.
What’s your favorite book?
The best leaders are able to inspire people, sometimes even unknowingly. They win the hearts and loyalty of their team members which lead to the organization’s success. This kind of leader has four admirable qualities:
They are not afraid to be vulnerable. Leaders who are not afraid to fail or show their own flaws and weaknesses are able to gain the trust and cooperation of his team members. On the other hand, leaders who exude too much confidence and come across as perfect make team members believe that he does not need any help. However, great leaders also know what, when, and how to show their weaknesses. They do not show personal flaws that may jeopardize his respectability as a professional.
They are perceptive and sensitive to the feelings of others. Great leaders are good at reading cues from the people around him. People do not need to spell out everything to him before he can sense opinions and feelings. This should not be mistaken from over-sensitivity which can harm the company and the leader himself. For example, when the CEO shows signs of disappointment over the decline in sales, an over-sensitive manager worries that he will be fired. When a great leader senses the negative feelings of others he uses this knowledge to do something that will produce a positive result.
They are empathetic. Great leaders care deeply about his team members. They make sure that team members are working in a favorable environment with enough resources to get their respective jobs done. However, he is able to determine what his people need from what they want. Although great leaders are detached from other people’s personal issues, they respect and care for their team members when it comes to work matters. He makes time to evaluate their work properly as a sign of respect and mutual effort.
They are able to show their uniqueness. Each human being is unique but great leaders know what separates them from the rest. Although they know how to create a sense of belonging as part of the company culture, they also know how to keep distance in order to establish authority. While some leaders do this by dressing expensively, great leaders use their special qualities like expertise, creativity, and passion.
While it is necessary for leaders to be their authentic selves, these four admirable qualities must be part of a great leader’s personality. They must be combined with a leader’s other positive characteristics so that he can create a leadership style that inspires the people in the organization that he runs.
What inspires you to be a leader? Share your leadership experience at the comment box!
Lynn Allen – Johnson